Guide to enjoy Valentine’s Day without your Valentine

Valentine’s Day is right around the corner, and if you are anything like me (ie: in a long distance relationship, single, or just won’t be with your boo on the 14th), this is for you.

Growing up in Europe, V-day isn’t as big a deal as it is here in North America. Sure, we still celebrate it when we are in a relationship, but if you are single the day just isn’t that traumatizing.
Here, however, I feel like everything in February revolves around the holiday! The stores are decked up in pinks and reds and it seems to be the only thing people can talk about. I personally love it, especially since I have had the chance to be in a relationship for several years (and happily took part in all the traditions like beautiful-yet-crazy-expensive flowers, fancy dinners out, sensual pretty dresses, dazzling-yet-often-unnecessary gifts,…). These past couple years tho, things have been different since my boyfriend and I are forced to spend a lot of time apart. Safe to say, I could live without Valentine’s Day right now. So I decided to come up with a list of things that make me feel happy and good, and plan on spending my 14th of February enforcing all of them!

Turn off your phone.

This might be the most important one – at least for me. I spend my days on my phone, especially on social media. There is nothing worst than feeling lonely and seeing other couples having the time of their lives. So keep that for the 15th, but on V-day do yourself a favor and just leave the phone on the bedside table. Allow yourself a day of rest (first of all, your eyes will thank you!) and relaxation without torturing yourself seeing what others are doing with their partners.

Pamper yourself.

Valentine’s Day isn’t just about showing love to others as much as showing love to yourself. There is nothing wrong with spending the day doing the things you love doing, it being shopping, getting a massage, spending time at the spa, doing a class of yoga,… Anything that gives you a smile on your face, do it and multiple it until your soul is happy.

Cook yourself your favorite dinner.

Cooking gets me out of my head and lets me focus on something else. We all have that one meal we fantasize about, wether we tried it in a restaurant or it was a childhood fave. Try to recreate it yourself, put on music and dance, lick the spoon, eat half of it while you are cooking,.. 
Personally I am a pasta girl. So anything that includes cheese, carbs, and some kind of delicious sauce gets my juices flowing. My dad taught me to make lasagna a few years ago, and there is a 99.9% chance (more like 100) this is what I’ll be making this year. 🙂

Take yourself on a date.

Seems silly, but not really. Why should you feel like you can’t do things just because you haven’t found your other half or because they aren’t with you right this second? The number of movies I haven’t gone to the theatre to see because I didn’t want to look sad going alone is ridiculous. This time around, I won’t let anything intimidate me (and plan on going to see Fifty Shades of Grey even if it means I am the only girl by myself in the room!). Take yourself to the museum, go walk around a beautiful park and enjoy the weather, go to your favorite dessert place and order that cheesecake you’ve been dreaming about,… Not only will you feel good, but you might inspire someone else to get out of their shell and to do the same. You never know who might be watching you (without sounding creepy).

Make yourself feel pretty.

For me putting on some makeup, doing my hair, and putting on clothes that make me feel good about myself play a huge part in having a good day. Even when I don’t plan on leaving the house, I often force myself to put on the bare minimum on my face (some tinted moisturizer, tinted lip-balm) and throw on clothes that I know will make me feel somewhat put together when I see myself in the mirror. The power of a good outfit is highly underestimated!

Buy yourself a present.

There’s no reason while others should be celebrating with presents and you shouldn’t. And I don’t mean spend $$$$ (unless you want to of course), but get yourself something you’ve been eyeing or waiting for an occasion to buy. I love to gift myself perfume, because it always puts me in a good mood when I get a smell of it. But the list is endless, from flowers to chocolate to jewelry to books,… And a little tip if you feel embarrassed to buy something for yourself: ask for it to be wrapped at the counter!

Spend it with your girl friends.

If all this still doesn’t sound like enough to get you excited about the 14th, then call your girls and plan something together. Pretty sure there is an actual word for this now: Galentine’s Day! Friends are the best way to overcome a sad moment, if only to change your mind and talk about something else. And there are so many things to do together that are guarantee to put a smile on your face: go to paint-night (you know, those wine-and-paint evenings where you are given a blank canvas and a glass, or multiple, of wine and you’re free to let your imagination run wild), go to one of those escape rooms (high high HIGH on my list!), get makeovers, go karaoke,… Laughing is the best medicine.



If you have any other tips and tricks on how to spend Valentine’s Day without your boo, please let me and others know! 


SWEATER: Tobi (similar here)
PANTS: Revolve
BOOTIES: Sam Edelman (similar here)
BAG: Nordstrom